What makes an older woman sexy? I fell asleep the other night wondering this, having contemplated the subtle erosion of the various bodily bits which supposedly evoke sexual urges. But before I launch into my exegesis, I must make a minor and defensive detour and query the same about older men. What do we find sexy about Jeremy Irons or Clint Eastwood? Their ease? Oh yes, I forgot - and how could I given contemporary media- we are sex objects.